Monday, February 13, 2006

how?

i was wondering... how is it possible for a person who has loved another, moreso if the love was that intense, just simply forget the other? how does he/she do it? and move on, as nonchalantly as if there was nothing that happened.

what i meant was, this person entered into a relationship with the other, right? of course, good faith being presumed, it was all out of love. he/she fell for the other. he/she perfectly knew who this person is, unless of course, he/she was hypnotized. putting deception and all the nutty ideas aside, he/she loved the other knowing what the consequences are. and this person should at least know what is being risked, what he/she is laying down.

what am i exactly driving at? how could one person love another, then in a snap, not love that other person anymore? how is it possible? yeah, some things may change. change is inevitable. but, that person should assume that the person he loves will never be the same. he/she should have anticipated that. in the same way, he/she should have not turned his/her back on the other simply because there is a possibility that things may no longer work as he/she had expected. aren't there any way to deal with it?

i have always believed in the pinoy saying, "pag may gusto, may paraan; pag ayaw, maraming dahilan."

i only hope that people will realize that what they are dealing with are emotions, emotions that a fellow human feels and deals with for his/her entire life. and that, each action always has its repercussion. love isn't some feeling brought about by the hypothalamus. it is a decision, a choice, that one has to take responsibility for.

it just pains me that i can still feel the repercussions, and that i am still at a loss why something that was so wonderful just ended like that.


2 comments:

Anonymous said...

yes, they probably thought you're a light bulb you simply switch on or off. but our feelings aren't like that. paemail sa kanya yang sinulat mo ha =)

Monique said...

What can I say? Being someone who has been at both ends of the spectrum, i.e. the "dumped" and the "dumpee" as well, believe me, you wouldn't want to be either. Mahirap pareho. All I can conclude from all this is that, well, shit happens. You don't always get what you want, or need. Yes, we deal with people, and emotions... But remember that more than just a decision, love is also a two-way street... Kung ayaw na talaga, for one reason or another, wala kang magagawa no matter how deep you try to philosophize (is there such a word?) or ask why.

I don't even know if I made sense here. I don't even know if I addressed your issue. Haaay. Puro na lang lab-lab, tama na nga yan! :D